How do you know whether to try again or call it quits? Help understand what attracts and repels in your relationship, learn how to mend the wounds of feeling unloved and if healing is not possible, how to mediate a civil parting.

The Equity Principle Revisited: When the deal is no longer in equilibrium

Feeling Unloved is the primary reason for divorce

Divorce Rate Statistics, U.S. Divorce Rate, Divorce Rates by Age and Gender, When do People Divorce?, Re-Marriage and Divorce, Divorce and Family Trends, Only 10% Reconcile after Separation, Links to US Statistical Resources for Divorce Rates

The Myth of Stability in Traditional Relationships, Historical Roles of Men and Woman, The Traditional Relationship Model, The Disadvantages, Why the Traditional Model Must Fail, Everyone is Confused, Avoiding the Pain of Transition

The Male Paradigm, The Caveman as the Hunter

The Female Paradigm

Dating and Loneliness, Do You Know What You Want?, No Question is Left Unanswered

The Myth of Sex = Love, The Un/Importance of Sex, Sexual Roles

No Such Thing as a Soul Mate; Can Love Conquer All Obstacles?; Figuring Out Why You Want It; Ending the Pretty Good Relationship

Whats In It For Me; Its Got to Be a Fair Deal; Relationship Equlibrium; The Potential Equity Trap; If I Love Him He Will Change; All Change is for the Worse

Relational Positioning, The Secret to Long Term Relationships, Saving a Marriage Afflicted by Changes in Relational Positioning(TM)

Why Marriage Fails So Often?, 7 Keys to Lasting Relationships, No Free Lunch

How Do You Know if Marriage is Right for Your Relationship?; The Relational Relationship Model; The concept of Structured Equilibrium; Are You Prepared to be a Life Mate?; Lets Make A Deal

The Dramatic Effect of Change in a Relationship

Only the Adaptable Survive, Rigidity Dooms Traditional Marriages, Misguided Expectations, Components of Relationship Adaptability, Personal Responsibility, Workshops and Self-help

Commitment; Historical Roles of Men and Women

How Maturity affects Relational Positioning (TM), Continuum of Maturity, The Dependant Role, The Independant Role, The Inter-Dependant Role

Bad Actions Before Attempts to Reconcile or Divorce

Good Actions to Take for Reconciling or Moving On

A Love Triangle - a third party emotionally involved in the relationship between a couple, adds another dimension to the already difficult task of re-creating balance in a troubled relationship.

Reconcilliation and Relationship Couples Mediation, Pre-Marital Agreements, Therapy Resources and Covenant Marriages

NJ Divorce mediation can result in a civil parting and a successful divorce that is healthy for children and saves money. Obtain advice from a New Jersey divorce attorney and certified mediator skilled in negotiations and creative solutions.

The Goal Of Divorce Mediation: A Sucessful Divorce

Advantages of Divorce Mediation and Settlement versus Divorce Litigation and the Adversarial System

Step by Step, how the divorce mediation process works. The Initial Assessment, Caucus, Issue Identification, Investigation & Consultation, Agreement and Compromise, Conclusion and Legal Review.

Mediation of Money Issues; How Much Money is There? Equitable Distribution of Assets and Debts; Spousal Support and Alimony; Budgets and the Real Costs to Support a Child

Mediation to resolve issues about Child custody and support, How are major decisions handled? How much time do I get? What is the child doing? Introducing new love interests, Creating a parenting plan, Developmental needs of children

The costs and fees for divorce mediation services

Court Rules for Divorce Mediation in New Jersey

Text of Uniform Mediation Act, Standards of Practice for Family and Divorce Mediators, Standards of Conduct for Mediators and Standards of Practice for Lawyer Mediators in Family Disputes

Divorce Mediation Services and Referrals, Free Forms for Divorce Mediation, Low Cost Divorce Mediation

Divorce Litigation: Ending the relationship that never ends. Successful contested divorce in New Jersey with an experienced NJ divorce attorney and certified divorce mediator. Get what you need without spending it all on the attorney. Divorce Assurance: finding hidden assets, custody, parenting, support, alimony, visitation, child welfare, complex litigation, drug and alcohol abuse, cheating spouses, business valuations, pre marital and ante nuptial agreements, palimony, equitable distribution.

The Problem with the Adversarial System

An Overview of the Legal Procedure for a Divorce

The Pressure to Move Cases

Adjusting to change depends if you are the Initiator or Non-Initiator of the divorce; Being Resolved; Who is the Initiator?; Who is the Non-Initiator?

Minimizing the Emotional Conflict Between the Initiator and Non-Initiator; The Lifeboat; Timing Issues for the Initiator; Timing Issues for the Non-Initiator;

Divorce Myths, Myth of Freedom, Myth of Single Parenting, Myth that High Conflict Means No Mediation

Letting Go of Anger, Emotional Divorce, When You Cannot Let Go of Anger, Control Your Destiny - Never Retaliate, The Importance of Acceptance, Avoiding the Controversy Trap, Capsizing the Lifeboat, Setting Limits on Anger

The Toxic Comment Committee, Bad-mouthing the mother or father is very destructive to the emotional growth and social stability of your children

Dispute Resolution in Divorces, Levels of Escalating Cost

Restraining Orders to Prevent Domestic Violence, TRO, FRO, Domestic Violence Statute, NJ, False Charges to Gain Custody, How to Prepare, Prosecute or Defend a DV Charge, N.J., New Jersey

Legal Custody vs Parenting Time, Sole Custody vs Joint Custody, Court Ordered Mediation of Custody and Visitation

Child Custody Evaluations, Court Rule 5:8-1 Investigation Before Award, 5:8-2. Direction for Periodic Reports, 5:8-3. Investigation After Award, 5:8-4. Filing of Reports, 5:8-5. Custody and Parenting Time/Visitation Plans, Recital in Judgment or Order, 5:8-6. Trial of Custody Issue

Motions and Pendente Lite Orders, Financial Support and Preservation of the Status Quo, Problematic Court Ordered Custody and Visitation, Discovery Motions, Motions for Child Supprt, Visitation, Counsel Fees, Motions to Enforce Litigants Rights

Guidelines for Creating a Parenting Plan, Cooperative or Parallel or Segregated Parenting, Planning for What you Want, Common Issues to Address, Developmental Needs of Children, Parenting Plans - NJ Court Rule 5:8-5

The Economic Paradigm of Divorce, Distribution of Assets, Distribution of Debts, Support of Spouse or Alimony, Child Support Guidelines

Divorce Settlement: Begin With the End In Mind - 98% of all litigated cases settle. Negotiations using an attorney mediator in a litigated case can promote your goals.

When to go to Trial in a contested or litigated divorce case, BATNA, Best Alternative to a Negotiated Settlement

The Expenses Involved in Divorce, Consultant and Expert fees, Court costs and filing fees

Doing Your Own Divorce

Legal Representation, Mediation and Referrals, Legal services for divorce, Attorney Fees, Costs and Expenses, Mediation Friendly Review Attorney, Divorce Litigation Forms, Divorce Assurance

Attorney prepared Low Cost Uncontested Divorce Packages

Life is Not Over, Just Starting Over, With either the end of a marriage through divorce, or the end of a long term relationship, you have gone through a loss very similar to the death of a beloved family member

The Most Popular Habits of the Newly Divorced

Financial Planning After Divorce

Wills and Estate Planning After Divorce

Protecting Your Children and Assets with Trusts

COBRA and Insurance after Divorce

Social Agreements: Covenant Marriage, Pre-Marital, Living Together; and New Jersey Domestic Partnerships

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